Centennial Coach Andrew Bovill looks at how to set and achieve your resolution.
We’ve all done it, look back at the end of the year and wondered where all that time went and asked ourselves: “Why didn’t I become that better version of me that I promised myself January 1”? New Year’s resolutions are big business and each year 92 per cent of us will fail to achieve our grandiose plans. What I’ve come to realise is that planning and preparation is key, small changes are more sustainable than big ones and lapses are normal. Here are my strategies for successful behaviour changes in 2017.
1. WHAT'S THE WHY IN YOUR GOAL?
The reason behind your goal must resonate with you to provide a solid foundation to establish your new behaviour and ensure success. Extrinsic motivators (motivation that comes from outside yourself, like looking good for an event or doing something for someone else) are usually less effective than intrinsic motivators in the long term. That’s not to say extrinsic motivation is ‘wrong’...it can be very effective in the short term...but ask yourself it it’s enough to convince you to stick to your goals.
2. ACTIONS BEFORE RESULTS
Your goal sets the direction and the reason why you’re doing it provides motivation and the impetus for change but to achieve your goals, focus on the behaviours you need to instil.
Having a goal does not deliver results, it’s the consistent process of carrying out actions leading to the goal that’s crucial.
3 SMALL FOCUSED STEPS
Break down your goals into a series of mini habits or behaviours that you can establish over time.
Our brains love habits and as much as 40% of our daily behaviours are based on habits rather than conscious decisions.
That’s why it’s so hard to build new behaviours or break old habits
According to Charles Duhigg in The Power of Habit, habits are simple cue-routine rewards loops designed to save effort. It works like this:
- We get an external cue that spikes brain activity and we decide on the appropriate action.
- The action we’re used to performing when we get this cue is performed.
- We get a feeling of reward or success as our brain registers the completion of the action and the link between the cue and the routine is reinforced.
- We make these cue routine-reward loops because our brain is always looking to save energy.
The basal ganglia part of the brain programmes repetitive behaviour so we don’t need to consciously think about it. It often overpowers the prefrontal cortex, that part responsible for conscious, reasonable decision making. The prefrontal cortex uses more energy and is easily tied so going along with a habit is easier, we don’t have to ‘think’ and it frees up space to focus on other things.
Picking small, easy changes eliminates the perception of difficulty and helps protect you from exhausting your prefrontal cortex with all that reasoning.
4. ONE CHANGE AT A TIME
It’s said you can handle up to three new habits at once, but why make it harder on yourself? Choose one change, commit to it and when that habit is ingrained, add another. Committing to too many changes at once is overwhelming, drains your prefrontal cortex and makes it easier to slip back to old ways.
5. CHOOSE KEYSTONE HABITS
If you can’t decide what your one change should be, look for a keystone habit – that is, something that can pull the rest of your life into line. For example, writing down your food intake could kick off more mindful eating, better food choices, more organised shopping and better cooking habits.
6. AVOID LIFE-CHANGING TRANSFORMATIONS
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of making big, dramatic life changing transformations but this is sure to lead to failure. Stick with small lifestyle changes that are easily repeatable. As these new behaviours are so easy and reasonable to do each day, you’ll be more consistent, helping you to create and reinforce new cue-routine-reward loops
7. WORK WITH YOUR CRAVINGS – NOT AGAINST THEM
Interrupting your cue-routine-reward loops is tricky as it’s not only your auto-pilot behaviour but your brain that gets attached to the reward you feel at the end of the loop. Instead of resisting that craving for reward, redirect it - keep your cue the same but change the routine to reap the reward. For example, if getting in the car has always been your cue to have a cigarette, keep the cue (getting into your car) but find something to change the routine, like have a water bottle handy to rehydrate. You’ve changed the routine and can feel good about the successful completion of your new action
8. ENVIRONMENT IS IMPORTANT
If you’d like to be more positive, surround yourself with positive people. If you’d like to eat healthier, ensure you have healthy options around you. An environment that makes it easier to establish your new habits will make it easier for you to succeed.
9. BE MINDFUL
We know that up to 40% of our actions are on auto-pilot but when we bring awareness to our thoughts we open up choices for ourselves like the choice to not believe or identify with the thought.
Without awareness we fall back into old habit loops.
10. DROPPING THE BALL FROM TIME TO TIME ISN’T FAILURE
Missing your new habit once has no measurable impact on your long-term success. Give up the all or nothing approach and remind yourself that things come up, it's not the end of the world and get back on track.
Make plans to accommodate disruption if you know they are coming up. Remember that slips are inevitable, it’s not a failure, just a part of the process.